Monday, November 18, 2013

Sugar Babies

Everything in moderation, right?!  Here's the problem with this logic.  IT'S SUBJECTIVE!  For example, to someone that eats fast food every single day of their life, the person that consumes it once a week would be in moderation, right?  If you know someone that has one glass of wine every day and someone that has twelve beers every evening, the wine drinker would be practicing moderation right?  What about the person that has one drink per month? Maybe that's moderation.  Do you see where I'm going with this?  How do you know what's "in moderation" for you?  Well when it comes to refined sugar, no amount is in moderation.

When I was brainstorming for this post I wrote the word sugar on a piece of paper and used a spider diagram with ways and events we (and our children) are constantly bombarded with sugar.  Here's what I came up with:  Holidays (Valentines Day, Easter, Halloween & Christmas), school (all the same holiday parties, classmates birthday celebrations, extra curricular activities), family (grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousin parties), friends (birthday parties outside of school),  Doctor and sometimes even Dentist office visits (lolly pops usually) and milestones / life happenings (good report cards, promotions/raises, vacations, etc).  For most people, all these events are celebrated with FOOD or SUGAR.  Hey, you got straight A's?  Let's go get Dairy Queen!  In for a big raise at work?  Let's go out for a steak dinner!  Sadly, these are real life examples, and I am sure you know exactly what I'm talking about.  Even if you just look at the school branch of this picture, your child probably has somewhere between 18-25 classmates.  Which means, that many birthday treats throughout the nine months of school, plus probably four holiday parties, and however else food rewards are used, a good grade on a paper, doing something nice, answering a question correctly in class.  Is that moderation???  Add to that, grandparents maybe taking your child to the movies (my grandparents house was nicknamed the Sugar Shack, and with good reason, donuts, money bread, cakes, candy, and ice cream was a regular occurance) where they binge on candy, the weekend friend birthday party where there's cupcakes and maybe a treat bag for the road, the sucker they get at the doctor for sitting through the exam, oh and don't forget all the candy and chocolate in the Christmas stocking coming up.  I used to make crazy treats at Christmas time, I had things stashed all over the house.  We would be on a constant sugar high for the 31 days of December! All these things, spread out over the course of the year, that is a LOT of sugar.  TOO much sugar.  And it literally begins at birth.  Would it even surprise you to know that the FIRST ingredient in several popular infant formulas is SUGAR?  See a photo/article of label here.  Why don't we just put coca cola in their bottles?!  And what do babies typically get after formula, apple juice, aka sugar.  Without the fiber in the whole food, it's just sugar.  You may as well hand them 10 teaspoons of table sugar.  The toll this takes on your body and pancreas, while may be invisible from the outside, is accumulating on the inside.  That's also why we have mood swings and temper tantrums, we're on an internal roller coaster!  We cannot stress enough, the changes we've seen in our boys since cleaning up their diet.  They no longer suffer from allergies, asthma, eczema, they don't get sick anymore, and they get along better!  I used to be so stressed out hollering at them for fighting and arguing, but now they're more like best friends.  They whisper and giggle and I honestly don't have to intervene, but maybe once per week anymore.  Imagine!!


The candy collection began August 1, not including Trick or Treating or all the other Twinkies we experimented with.
A humorous post about the sugar gaunlet that begins at Halloween.


All of that refined, and likely genetically modified, sugar promotes systemic inflammation, which we should all know by now, is bad news and leads to chronic illness and metabolic disease.  It also creates insulin resistance.  And every time you consume sugar (in all forms) you tax that pancreas, and it can only keep up for so long.  With all those sugar spikes over the course of several years, you will develop some level of insulin resistance and possibly even diabetes.  I think everyone knows that with diabetes comes pills, injections, neuropathy, vision complications, higher risk for heart disease and stroke, maybe even amputation.  Think of it like this:  If you continually treat your morning commute like a series of drag races, those frequent and sudden speed changes will be very taxing on your drivetrain and brakes.  Your car may look fine on the outside, but on the inside it's dying a slow death.   As much fun as all that sounds, we think we'll stick with prevention!  Benjamin Franklin once said, "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."


If you're trying to lose weight, refined sugar should definitely be avoided!  Don't be fooled by "low fat" schemes.  While some candy and even "healthy" things like yogurt can have NO fat, they are full of sugar (a.k.a. Corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, dextrose, doesn't matter, it's all sugar) and if you don't burn it off, guess what, it's stored as fat.  Yep, all that cellulite you see in the mirror, thank all those low fat foods!  Did you know that to burn the calories from ONE m&m candy (not one bag), you would have to walk the length of a football field.  And who eats just ONE?!  That's why even the smallest splurge will make you pack on the pounds.  Check out what researchers found when they fed mice a healthy diet, with only modest amounts of sugar.  In this day and age, we maintain so many things and yet, we fail to take care of our most value piece of equipment, the body we carry around.  We pay to maintain (or have someone else maintain) our cars, our lawn mower, our furnace, our air conditioner, appliances, but we shovel sugar into our bodies in massive quantities and think nothing of it.  And you'll find sugar hiding in the most surprising places if you look:  condiments, cereals, alcoholic beverages, sauces & dressings, breads/buns, etc.  Pretty much every item on a fast food menu has some form of sugar in it, take a look.  You could feel so much better if you just choose more wisely.  So the next time you see that triple layer cake on Pinterest, just keep scrolling and find a better option, perhaps something sweetened with raw honey, bananas, or dates.  If you're currently a sugar fiend, start small.  Maybe go one day per week where you have no sugar at all.  After a couple weeks of success at that, make it two days in a row, and so on. Still for others, going cold turkey may be the best option.  Get through the withdrawal and never look back.  Set small, attainable goals.  It will be tough, but you can do it and it is well worth it.  It won't be easy, there may be times that you're tempted or feel pressured into indulging, just remember why you're doing it and focus on how good you feel. It's best to limit the big sugar splurges to once or twice a year, say your birthday or anniversary, then by all means, enjoy that piece of cake.  It just shouldn't be twelve times a month, if you're truly seeking the best overall health.  And who wouldn't like to be the best version of themselves?



And maybe instead of going for ice cream when your kids bring home good grades or your spouse gets a promotion, replace it with something non-food related, maybe even something physically active.  Perhaps a family activity like going on a hike and picnic, or a bike ride.  If geography or weather doesn't permit that, maybe an indoor gym where you could rock climb or play tennis.  Or there's always bowling and arcades.  If you've got a whole weekend and the funds, plan a short trip somewhere.   See something you've never seen!  Anything that doesn't revolve around food!  Experiences are always better than food.  I promise you, no one will remember that sundae they devoured months down the road, but I'll bet they'll remember the family bonding and the laughs they had while watching mom try to rollerskate.  Plus, your pancreas will thank you!



Monday, November 11, 2013

The Traveling Caveman

Since making this change to my dietary lifestyle, I have been on a few business trips that required me to make choices.  For those of you who follow the 80:20 rule (80% Healthy, 20% Whatever), this really wouldn't be much of an issue for you if you only traveled occasionally.  But, what about the hard-core Paleo enthusiast or the road warrior who travels much more than 20% of the time?  There were three options that I went with while on the road, but the first thing you must do before you are sitting down looking over the menu, is determine:

What Are My Non-Negotiable Menu Items?

That is going to be vastly different from one person to another.  One may have a gluten intolerance that doesn't allow him/her to eat it at all.  Another may have a CAFO hatred so severe, that he/she would NEVER eat meat that is not grass-fed.  However you determine your non-negotiable items, it doesn't matter.  That is a personal choice that should have zero outside influence.  My non-negotiable items are:

1.  Wheat - I will not consume any wheat/gluten knowingly.  The main reason is that I just don't like the the way I feel when eating it.

2.  Refined Sugar - I will avoid all items I believe to be sweetened with sugar.  If it happens to be and I didn't know it, I won't stress, but I do my best to avoid it.

That's it for me!  I travel so infrequently, that I don't feel the list needs to be any longer.  If I ever start to travel more, I think the list may grow, but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.  Once you have your travel plans made, you will then be able to determine if you can...

Buy Your Own Food

On one trip, I stopped at Trader Joe's and grabbed some healthy options that were Paleo friendly and made my own food at the hotel.  Now, this will only work if you are traveling alone and if you are lucky enough to be staying in an extended stay hotel.  I purchased organic free-range eggs, uncured pastured bacon, organic spinach, organic cheese and some raw nuts.  I made myself some eggs and bacon with sauteed spinach in the hotel before going out for the day.  That beats the pastries and dry cereal you get in the hotel lobby.  At minimum, you can start your day well.  This is the least likely option, but, it is an option that I have exercised and felt good about.  If you can't make your own food, another option is to...

Fast

This one can be a slippery slope!  Again, opportunity is key here.  If you are in an all-day meeting and/or you are out with a group of people and they are serving boxed lunches or pizza, fasting may be your only option depending on your non-negotiable menu items.  Don't draw attention to yourself and politely decline food that is offered to you when people notice you aren't eating.  This is not the time to talk about why.  If you want to tell them you are fasting for personal reasons, you could do that.  Most people will avoid extending that conversation any further knowing the potential religious consequences.  This option only works for "working" lunches where you have access to your laptop or tablet to conduct work while the rest are eating.  You can also leave the room to "make a phone call" and just avoid it altogether.  Just remember, you may be missing out on some networking opportunities any time you skip a meal.  If you don't want to miss out, you should...

Get What You Can And Don't Stress

The quickest way to make a bad impression on a business trip is to be a damper on the mood.  Most of the people who are traveling for business are looking to enjoy themselves because it takes them away from the stress of everyday work and, for some, the stresses from home.  Not only that, it's a chance to socialize.  Let's face it, once the real world rears it's ugly head, socializing is at a bare minimum compared to the time period immediately before!

Actually, CAFO meat will kill you!
So, don't stress about your food choices and be a "Debbie Downer" for the rest of the group.  Take your non-negotiable list with you (in your head, of course) and make smart decisions.  Don't talk about how 90% of the menu items are crap.  Don't gross people out with facts about CAFO's and what that food is doing to their bodies.  Just order food you know you can live with and have a good time!  If you want to have a drink or two, please do!  Since one of my non-negotiable menu items is wheat, I chose wine over beer.  It's really that simple.  Nobody is going to judge you except for the meat-heads at the table who think they still are in college.  That's fine!  Smile and shrug it off and have a good time anyway.  They are the ones making a bad impression, not you.

Conclusion

Traveling for business usually accomplishes one or more of three things: 1) Networking, 2) Professional Development, 3) Business Development.  None of those can be accomplished with a bad attitude.  Remember why you are there and get the most out of your time.  Acting too good for everyone around you and/or climbing into a Paleo shell will only cause you grief in the end.  You never know who will be making decisions about your next promotion/job opportunity.  Do you think they will promote/hire a mopey introvert who can't make personal connections with people, or the person who is confident in their choices and takes the opportunity at hand to network and have a good time?

The only time to talk about why you make the choices you make is if someone asks.  If you are passionate like me, this will open the flood gates.  Keep the conversation simple and leave the door open for them to conduct their own research.  In the end, you will not convert them with your words.  They must convert themselves.  Don't be a Paleo evangelist.  Evangelists are annoying!  Just give facts and talk about how it changed your life.  You will be respected for making such a tough decision for your future.  And, respect is always an important thing.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

All Aboard...

Fasten your seatbelts, it's going to be a bumpy ride on this coaster!  I have struggled with my weight my ENTIRE life.  I can very vividly remember coming home from school in the fourth grade, in tears, because the school nurse came around and weighed everyone and I had hit 100 pounds, at 10 years old.  Not good.  My son is about to turn eleven and he weighs 72 pounds.  But I can remember being mortified that I weighed more than the boys in my class.  It wasn't a good feeling and I always thought it was my fault for eating frozen pizza and Little Debbie's and not moving enough, even though I played basketball, volleyball and softball.  Junior high came and was brutal.  I was still overweight.  My home life sucked, I stress ate, boredom ate, and ate emotionally to fill voids.  High school wasn't much better, never had a boyfriend and it seemed no matter what I did, I could never look like the popular girls.  What was I doing wrong?  I have no idea how much I weighed because I never got on the scale, too depressing, but I hated being a size 14, however, it would get much, much worse.

My senior year of high school and freshman year of college was my smallest.  Why?  I took up smoking.  I have no other explanation because what I ate never changed, but I found myself fitting into a size 10 jean (maybe 160lbs) and loved it.  The added attention from college guys didn't hurt either.  ;)

[Side bar -- I am not a petite woman, nor will I ever be.  I am about 5'9", relatively muscular and pretty average frame.]

My freshman year of college, this was December of 1999, my parents announced their divorce and I had just started dating my husband, so over the next year, my weight crept up quickly.  

Fast forward to March of 2002, found out we were expecting our first son.  At my six week appointment, I tipped the scale at 244 pounds and a size 18/20.  Even now, it's hard to admit that number.  A far cry from that size 14 I was complaining about!  I feel bad for that person that ate her feelings and didn't know any better.  I would tell her so many things if I could.  I gained 11 pounds with that pregnancy, bringing me up to 255 pounds by the end of it.  Gave birth, via c-section, to a 10 pound 7 ounce baby boy (at 41.5 weeks) so I weighed less than my starting weight!  Baby weight, what baby weight?!
Me at my heaviest (outside of pregnancy), 240lbs.


Sept 2004


When my son turned one, I decided to get serious about losing weight because I didn't want to be a lazy couch potato, and wanted to have the energy to get out and do things with him!  So in the first three months of 2004, I dropped 50 pounds, by walking and eating better (got down to 178 pounds).  BUT I didn't learn anything so as soon as I went off my 'diet' I put the weight right back on.












October 2006, still overweight.
In 2005, I got pregnant with baby number two and at that six week appointment I was 202 pounds.  I gained about 25 pounds with that pregnancy and gave birth to a 9 pound 4 ounce baby boy (at 39 weeks) via repeat c-section.  After that I think I maintained between 210-215 pounds for awhile.












Family Vacation, July 2008.  Yep, STILL overweight.

In 2008, my weight was creeping up again, as I had some traumatic events going on in my personal life and was not eating very well.  I was back up to 225/230 pounds and at the start of 2009 once again, hopped on that coaster of trying to lose it again for my 10 year high school reunion.  Which, I did succeed at doing, by September of 2009 I was back down to 180 pounds.
10yr HS reunion - SKINNY, but not healthy.  September 2009


I struggled to keep it off the next year and when I celebrated my 30th birthday in 2010, I was at 190 pounds.
December 2010, on my way back up.


April 2012
July 2012
Then, fast forward to summer of 2012, I had packed on another 20 and was about 210 pounds.  And I thought I ate pretty good, drank diet soda...  We had some very bad days, of course, but it didn't seem like that could cause such an overall gain!  It was depressing, and I hated what I saw in the mirror.  I had resigned to the fact that I would never wear a two piece bathing suit and that I couldn't sustain any kind of real weight loss.  I despised clothes shopping.  Bathing suits, bras, pants, nothing cute ever fit.  And of course, I blamed myself.  Surely it was a matter of will power, right?  I was just as brainwashed as the next person, that low fat was how you lost weight.  Eat less and exercise more.




I have been paleo for seven months now and have been maintaining 170 pounds for the last five!  If you look back, that's the lowest I've weighed since college!  But the best part is, I am off that roller coaster!  Heck, I'm not even inside the theme park anymore.  I know now!  I know what to eat, I know how to keep the weight off, I know what I will never eat again and I know what makes me healthier.  I have educated myself and I can never be obese again and it feels really good to say that.  Plus, I am never hungry!  By filling up on healthy fats and proteins, you stay fuller much longer than if you're eating empty sugar carbs.  Boy, did I put my body through the ringer all those years of yo-yo dieting.  Losing and gaining weight like that is not healthy for your body!
Summer 2013



Fall 2013
It's not really a secret, the key is really just eating real food.  REAL food, not fake food.  Not stuff in cans, cartons and boxes.  Food that grows, food without labels.  The food we were meant to eat.  If you can't grow it yourself or kill it yourself, you shouldn't be eating it.  Period.  If you eat crap, you're going to look like crap.  Are there times I want to eat that Licorice or Milky Way?  Absolutely, I would be lying if I said I wasn't sometimes tempted.  But it's so easy to resist, because I have educated myself.  So when I am craving something sweet, we have dark chocolate (quality ingredients and at least 85% cocoa) or I make a paleo friendly treat.  I have a much healthier relationship with food now.  I eat to live, I don't live to eat.  Food isn't constantly on my mind, my stomach isn't always growling and I am nourishing my body with excellent nutrition.  I eat things like pastured eggs, kale, avocado, carrots, parsnips, and Brussels sprouts and grass fed beef, and I love every bite of it!  When you know better, you chose better.  I cannot say this enough - educate yourself.  It makes it so much easier to maintain your weight loss.  And it's also important to find your own balance, whether it's 80/20 or 90/10, whatever fits your lifestyle and gets you to where you want to be.  Everyone can do it.  You don't have to spend another day being overweight!  Learn from me and get off that ride.  Take control of your life and your health!  And say good-bye to your fat pants!!

Now my size 12 pants have to be held up with belts!  And for spring break in March, we are taking the kids to Disney, and I just may be buying a two piece to pack.  :)